Monday, February 13, 2012

Need some advise

Ian's letter to mom:


thanks mom (:
The cheese guy is named Merson Ortega, he works from the province of Carchi which is where almost all dairy products come from here. He sells all of his cheese in Colombia, i think because there aren't good farms there so he can get a better price. He is gone a lot and so we can't teach the wife when she is alone...so little progress there ): I never knew that Alyse was pregnant!! 9 months ago...i was still home too....oh well. Blackwelders and Myers always right behind each other with babies....not much time to write today, but always time to read because we print out the letters in the morning and read them during the day and write at night, but today we got a late start because we cleaned the bathroom. The other missionaries who attend the same chapel as us are the zone leaders. They have been teaching a family Celin, the mom is marcia and she got baptized on sunday, and President Ghent showed up too which was cool. But Marcia has two sons Lenin and Gustavo who are also investigators, but smoke weed mixed with cocaine everyday. They have been working a lot with them to get them to stop, but still are so physically attached to it. They hate it, but can't stop. I was wondering if you could ask Larry if he has any advice. The Elders working with them, one is from Guayaquil and has seen a lot of things with his friends, and the other is from Saint George, so they need some advice..

love you
Elder blackwelder


Ian's cousin Larry's response to Ian's request for help with addicts:
Ian, Hey buddy!


Your Dad stopped over on Sunday and gave me a little update on your progress. Sounds like you're doing a good job and making a difference. I'm proud of you. Your investigator that are smoking cannabis and cocaine daily will be able to get the program but you're going to have deal with the dependency also. A good starting point is seeing if they can meet you and not be under the influence, little baby steps. Take it "One Day at a Time" and then it's not so overwhelming. Maybe they can commit to a whole day without using and then contact you the next day with an update. You can be their support sponsors and also spiritual guides. Smokable cocaine is highly addictive but more psychologically than physical. Cannabis is psychologically addictive only, no physical withdrawal. They can quit but it may not be right away, relapse is part of the process for most people. The true healing from this "brain disease" is spiritual in nature, finding help from a Higher Power, outside of themselves and you may be that for them at first. Love, compassion, acceptance and encouragement are key ingredients to recovery. Another thing to remember when working with addicts, you may never see them get clean or sober that's the facts. Sometimes all you do is plant the seed and when the time is right they will remember what you said and especially your spirit and how you were with them. You can be a source and inspiration for change with acceptance and example. I know you'll do a good job with them, you did with me.


I remember sitting in your backyard when I was in the first month of recovery. You, Briana, Tess and Candice were worried, asking what was I going to do with Locals Only, with Jim, etc. etc? I said "I'm not sure, I'm just taking it one day at a time. You walked in the house a drew this little caricature of me with blood shot eyes in my torn-up shorts and shirt looking like a bomb went off. It said "I take it one day at a time but lately two days attacked me at once!" I'll never forget how loving and understanding all you kids were while I was going through probably the toughest time of my life. Love is the cure all.


Well buddy dog! Get out there now and spread the love in the way you've been taught. Again I'm so proud of you.


Love, Larry

Saturday, February 4, 2012

January 23, 2012

 my shoes

 my reflection on the bus (yes we do travel alone)


  My friends from my MTC group at the training meeting we had with president in otavalo

 my nasty kitchen in the cave we live in (the light in the photo is actual, it's like camping because there is a big shadow from the yellow light on the one wall. we're in the process of looking for another house)

 baptism of Kevin Moises


 the zone the day of transfers waiting for the bus
in the bus at terminal Quitumbe



the view from in the bus. I am glad you and dad checked out the drive from quito to ibarra, it really was quite incredible. I loved the desert to roling green hills change. Did you guys look on google earth?



Everyone-


So, my first full week in Sagrario Ibarra. It is very different than San Juan. Starting with the house, my new one has very few windows. It makes it very sad and dismal, and it has also been really cloudy and rainy, so that doesn't help much either. But it is all flat! no hills! However, it makes it very difficult to orient yourself. It is a really interesting city, and the people are much friendlier and much more willing to listen. My companion doesn't really know where things are either, so the only investigators we have are really close to the house, but occasionally we have lunch in the more extremities of the sector. We have a crummy map at the house that I try to study at night to get to know it all, but I have know idea where the boundaries are. I think on Tuesday we have a meeting with the branch president to get things like that settled. Oh, the branch. It is really great actually, a lot stronger I'd say than my old ward in San Juan, but there are a few things they are lacking (like a piano player in sacrament). I am actually excited though to be able to work in a branch because there is a real goal to be reached of becoming a ward. It was hard to leave the investigators and everything in San Juan, but I think I just need to learn to get over it.
We are working with the Burgos Family. They were found a few weeks ago by my companion Elder Rocha and another Elder who is in Tulcan, Elder Pande. The dad has a cheese company and is away from the house A LOT, so it is hard to find them all together. They are highly wealthy and have a very different way of conversing. Their house is Chinese themed with big fans on the walls for decoration and chinese style furniture. The folks here are considerably more wealthy than San Juan, but there certainly are some sectors of the poorer variety. I don't think I prefer either more than the other, they both have their ups and downs. My companion is a really good teacher. He only has 9 weeks in the mission, but I have learned a lot from him in lessons. He has a really different accent because he is from Brazil. He has been really sick lately, but I think we are going to start running in the mornings to get to know the sector a little bit better. We have a few other people we are working with besides the Burgos family, but they were the only ones who showed up at church. Elder Rocha and I think that once they get baptized, Hermano Burgos will be the first Bishop of the ward. They are really good investigators, just lack the time. That is about it for this week. I am just continuing to get to know Ibarra and the people, and getting used to my new responsibilities. 

Love you all

Elder Blackwelder